A Nigerian man has shared an intimate account of his journey into self-discovery, explaining how embracing his feminine identity and choosing to crossdress transformed his life and earned him thousands of followers on social media. His story, which spans from childhood curiosity to adult self-acceptance, has sparked conversations about gender expression, identity, and societal norms across Nigeria.
Reflecting on his early years, he said, “Growing up as a child, I have always loved to be a woman. If I dey bath with my sisters, e dey pain me say I see myself like this. I go dey look them say God, why you no make this thing like a woman?” He recalled feeling a natural connection to femininity long before understanding the societal implications of gender expression.
“I have been aspiring to be a woman since I was a child.”
He emphasized that his desire was not merely an imitation or fascination with fashion, but a deep-seated expression of his true self. “I have been aspiring to be a woman since I was a child. Even when we acted drama, I was always the wife. Even unconsciously, I don’t know,” he explained, describing how these early experiences shaped his identity and comfort with female roles in society.
The turning point came when he fully embraced his authentic self. “The moment I took my place, I moved from zero follow to 3,000 followers on Facebook in less than eight months. Only Facebook. TikTok, if I cough, the world,” he said. This revelation highlights the growing online support for individuals challenging traditional gender norms, especially in Nigeria where societal expectations around masculinity remain rigid.
The man’s journey has not only been about social media recognition but also personal liberation. He explained that expressing his identity gave him confidence and a sense of belonging in spaces that previously felt constrictive. “I realized that being authentic is more valuable than conforming. Once I embraced who I am, everything else followed naturally,” he added.
In addition to personal growth, he used humor and candidness to challenge entrenched notions of gender roles. “Man no be cloth. If na cloth, why your husband never buy Rose Royce?” he quipped, signaling his rejection of stereotypes that confine men and women to predetermined societal roles.
Social media reactions
The revelation generated mixed reactions online. Social media users responded with a combination of surprise, admiration, amusement, and curiosity. Many praised his courage, while others reacted humorously, reflecting the spectrum of societal attitudes toward gender expression.
@1GRAND_MAESTRO wrote: “How person wey look like one rugged agbero go dey do cross dressing.”
@DeyeThaMost99 commented: “Bro you like this and still feel feminine, you suppose Dey repair generator for WATT market.”
@Ayeni001 said: “Stupid boy. I like his courage sha! We were only used to Tom boys when we were growing up, never knew we had ‘Tom girl.’”
@Emperor_Willy added: “Omo my speech is not speeching for this boy.”
@Onyedi1Winfred remarked: “Person wey carry ‘ogogoro’ for hand, wetin you dy expect make em talk. Make una leave me for this app.”
These reactions showcase the variety of perspectives Nigerians have toward crossdressing and gender fluidity, highlighting both the growing acceptance and the persistent skepticism surrounding non-conforming gender identities.
Through his story, the man hopes to inspire others to embrace their authentic selves regardless of societal pressures. He stressed that self-expression and authenticity are key to personal growth and happiness, encouraging those struggling with identity to find confidence in their uniqueness.
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— TENIOLA (@Teeniiola) November 21, 2025