A young lady has triggered widespread discussion across social media after openly declaring that if her marriage ever collapses, she is fully prepared to walk away from everything — including full custody of her children — leaving them entirely in their father’s care.
The woman shared her perspective on X (formerly Twitter), where she revealed her unconventional plan to draft and sign a legally binding agreement with her future husband before they marry. According to her, the agreement would outline what happens if their union fails.
Her unusual marital agreement
Detailing her stance, she wrote:
“My husband and I will have a written agreement that if ever our marriage ends, he’ll take the kids and I’ll leave with nothing.
“I get them on weekends and holidays and I’ll be checking in on them. My status will be ‘Oh, I’m single and I have two kids but they’re growing up nicely with their daddy.’”
Her post quickly went viral, accumulating thousands of impressions and sparking a flood of mixed reactions from users who found her viewpoint either shockingly honest or deeply concerning.
Mixed reactions from users
Many users expressed disbelief, questioning why she would plan for marital failure even before getting married.
Ibukun commented: “Na wa o, you no want make your marriage successful?”
Vivian added: “Women are the most toxic in relationships yet they are still the ones claiming victims. Why can’t you hope for the best in marriage and not these?”
Others felt her point of view was refreshing and brutally realistic, especially regarding co-parenting dynamics.
Leshey said: “I wish more women would have this idea. They’ll instead take the kids and expose them to this cruel world to prove their point 😔”
On the opposing side, some users argued that children often interpret such choices as abandonment from the mother.
Suem wrote: “Kids who grow up with their father while their mother is away always hate their mother because they feel abandoned. Nothing can replace the absence of a mother in our lives.”
Meanwhile, a user identified as Mr Onyancha saw things differently, noting that raising the children could be a privilege rather than a burden.
He commented: “I didn’t know being the parent that stayed with the kids was this frowned upon. To me, that would be an awesome win.”
The lady’s statement continues to generate debate, reflecting the evolving conversations around marriage expectations, gender roles, shared parenting, and the emotional complexities of separation in modern relationships.