Controversial Nigerian cross-dresser and social media personality, Bobrisky, has opened up about a major life lesson he says he learned through painful personal experiences involving relationships, happiness, and the influence of social media.
In a reflective post shared on his Instagram page, Bobrisky spoke about the dangers of exposing one’s private life online, especially in a society where envy and negativity can distort even the purest sources of joy. He described this realization as a “hard-earned truth” shaped by years of scrutiny and public interference.
In his own words, he wrote:
“One thing I learnt the hard way as an ex-Nigerian is never to bring what makes me happy on social media.”
Bobrisky explained that he has come to understand that displaying personal happiness—whether it is love, money, relationships, or success—often invites unwanted attention, envy, and criticism. According to him, social media has the power to damage what is meant to be private, particularly in Nigeria, where many people are battling personal hardships that fuel resentment and jealousy.
He stressed that certain blessings are best kept private, noting that the pressure and negativity that come with public exposure can harm a person’s peace of mind and even destroy relationships. Bobrisky warned that making a relationship public can expose it to people who wish to see it fail.
“Let the relationship be between you and him only. Nigerians will make sure it scatters and laugh at you if they see your happiness,” he added, highlighting the toxic culture of online mockery and intrusion that individuals often face.
Bobrisky also advised that relationships should remain an intimate bond between two people rather than a spectacle for social media audiences. According to him, once outsiders begin to form opinions, pass judgments, or meddle, the connection can quickly deteriorate.
His description of himself as an “ex-Nigerian” reflects his discontent with certain societal behaviors he associates with the country—particularly jealousy, gossip, and a lack of support toward others’ happiness. By using that phrase, he suggested that he has emotionally separated himself from the cultural patterns he finds unhealthy.
His message has attracted significant reactions online, with many acknowledging the truth in his observation about privacy, public scrutiny, and the need to protect one’s peace from external negativity.